You know chivalry is dead when... he won't change his life for you.

That's just the facts of life- sometimes unexpected things happen and a couple needs to make a joint decision as to the state of their affairs. We are living in a different time where the man and the woman both work and both have a stake in their careers. Gone are the days when the woman used to drop everything and follow the man anywhere.

So isn't chivalry based on the notion that the man will take care of the woman and the woman doesn't need to work? Chivalry has a different definition of what it was then and what it is now. Chivalry is now more like a gentleman state, where he cares about your feelings and where you two can work as a team and part of that is being able to want to change his life for you if it's something that needs to be done. With communication, he should be willing to make a sacrifice if that's what it calls for.